update

Okay I'm back! I don't know if that is excited to anyone else but it is to me :). I apologize if this post (blog entry what ever you call this) has no direction and does not make much since. I am out of practice and I am trying to get my feet wet again. I am trying to get inspired.

It has been a while now since I have been out of my nice comfortable feminist bubble at a university. I still have a hard time feeling like I am a connected and active member of the feminist community. I found a full time job at a shelter and overall I am loving it... YAY for a full time job with benefits.

My new shelter is worlds better at being inclusive and having the feminist ideals than the other shelter I worked at but there are definitely things that still bug me. I still don't feel comfortable being out as a queer women that is in a relationship with a trans man. Even though this shelter actually puts trans people in there community agreement (the rules the resents have to follow)! Its awkward keeping that part of my life secret when I am trying to bond and form relationships with my coworkers. They tell me about their partners and there personal lives and I sit in silence holding back a huge part of my life. I did tell one co-worker today when I let it slip that I had a partner. She looked at me and said your in a relationship? I felt awful for not sharing this information before. I almost felt guilty. She looked at me like why the hell did I not know this we have been bonding for the past 3 months and I tell you about my personal life. At this point I just let it all out and told her I am queer and that my partner is trans. She did not react badly. I think she was confused and a bit shocked.

I don't know what I expected her to do...